25+ Truths strong women learn from relationship heartbreak

Everyone goes through heartache at a point in their life. It’s one of the toughest times to pull out of, and many times we just need to hear the things that speak to us. And often times there are things women need to learn from relationship heartache.

So, whether you are looking for confirmation, inspiration, motivation or affirmation, here are some things women need to learn from heartache to pull yourself together and get back on your own feet.

25+ Truths strong women learn from relationship heartbreak

1 | If you don’t value yourself, then you will attract people who don’t value you, either. So it’s important to understand why women with self worth have more successful relationships.

2 | If you’re in love with two people, pick the second one, because if you truly loved the first you wouldn’t have fallen in love the second time.

3 | When it comes to trust: the first time was a warning, the second time is a lesson, the third becomes a pattern.

4 | Take the time to reflect after a breakup; learn from the mistakes, correct any wrongs, feel your feelings and stop desperately looking for a relationship to fill the void the previous one left behind.

5 | You can’t pour from an empty cup; take care of yourself.

6 | Don’t marry someone or get in a serious relationship unless you’d be proud to bring a child into the world exactly like them.

7 | Focus on yourself instead of finding someone better than you ex; a better you will find a better next.

8 | The difference between ‘I Like You’ and ‘I Love You’ are like flowers: If you Like it, you’ll pick it, and if you Love it, you’ll continue to water it and watch it grow.

9 | The one you should marry shouldn’t give you butterflies along with highs and lows; marry the one who makes you feel warm, safe and secure (someone who actually lowers your blood pressure).

10 | Find the man who will praise you in front of other women, not someone who will lust over other women in front of you.

11 | Fight for the fairy tale – it does exist, it just isn’t *perfect* or glamorized.

12 | Be the Love you never received; reparent yourself.

13 | A real relationship is two imperfect people refusing to give up on each other (or won’t give up so easily).

14 | Until you’re comfortable being alone, you will never know if you’re choosing someone out of Love or Loneliness.

15 | Don’t chase them, attract them – the people who belong in your life will find you and stay there (without having to force or coerce them).

16 | You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.

17 | The moment you feel that you have to prove your worth is the moment you desperately need to walk away.

18 | You can always tell if a man loves you through the time he’s willing to invest – money spent is meaningless, but time is priceless.

19 | When someone truly loves you, saying it becomes extra – you’ll know by their actions and how they treat you.

20 | Love can be tough (i.e., “Love does not rejoice in iniquity [wrongdoing]”), but that doesn’t mean Love is supposed to bring about pain and suffering.

21 | If it’s not making you better, then it isn’t Love; Love should not make you less (small) but it should make you want to be a better version of yourself.

22 | A gentlemen will open doors, pull out chairs and hold things for you – not because you are unable or helpless, but because you are worthy of respect and should be treated as invaluable.

23| The guy who is secretive and deceptive knows he has a lot to lose. A man who respects you knows he gains nothing through dishonesty and a lack of integrity.

24 | A soulmate isn’t someone who completes you, but someone who inspires you to complete yourself.

25 | Sometimes the love of your life comes after the mistake of your life.

26 | When you repeat the same mistakes over and over, that makes it harder for the next person to come into your life to make it right.

27 | Love is the perfect recipe of respect, communication, companionship, friendship and understanding. If you leave out one ingredient, it could result in failure.

28 | Intimacy is not purely physical – it is the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul.

29 | The ultimate goal is to laugh forever with someone who can also take you seriously.

30 | The sure sign of a man’s strength is how gently he loves you.

31 | Don’t be an option, be a priority.

32 | One day someone is going to embrace you so tight, all of your broken pieces will be put back together.

33 | A relationship is like a house – when the light bulb burns out, you don’t go buy another house – you fix it.

34 | When a man is truly interested, there will be no need for you to do the pursuing. Men are born to pursue, and yes you can if you want to, but for a man to sit back and wait for her to chase him – that shows you where you stand in his life and priorities. Know the signs when someone is just not interested.

35 | If someone can fall asleep knowing you’re crying, hurting or didn’t get home safe, they don’t care about you.

36 | The best relationships are the ones you never saw coming.

37 | When someone else’s happiness is your happiness – that is Love.

38 | Be with someone who reminds you what butterflies feel like.