Why gentle? Well, because not all friendships end chaotically, out of strife or neglect. In fact, I would argue that many friendships outgrow themselves prior to ending in conflict. This fact was definitely inspiration for my post on why I stopped forcing friendships in my life. What usually ends in discord and animosity is a […]
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If this title resonated with you, I’m glad you’re here, because not many are willing to admit (even to themselves) that the very friendships in their life are only there out of force. And let me explain the very self-respecting reasons I stopped forcing friendships to *fit* in my life. You know why I’m writing
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This isn’t my typical kind of post but more of a rant, venting and confession all-in-one. That’s the energy I’m bringing today, because my heart has been heavy lately pertaining to why I stopped chasing friends. I’m sure many can resonate with this one. To be clear, there’s a difference between showing up, making an
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Are we mistaking work colleagues, or work friendships as friends first? I get it – making friends alongside those you work with isn’t so cut and dry. I also realize my take on this will probably make some people squirm. I learned this hard fact – that your coworkers are not your friends first –
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I don’t have a best friend, and I think that’s perfectly normal, which is why I think best friends is overrated. IMO, it’s perfectly normal not to have a “best friend” these days. I also think having best friends is idolized in our culture. Although, society and some psychologists (depending on which side of the
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Assuming you are reading this – obviously – in your 20s, but more importantly, this [hopefully] being the time in your life when your friends are…well…life. Although this is more of an unconventional approach, I believe this is the time to make the most of your 20s *with your bestie(s)*. You and your crew are
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I’m a 30-something year old adult now, and I have few friends. If I’ve learned anything at this point is that less is more, and I’ve never been happier. Allow me to explain in simpler terms: quality over quantity. There was certainly a time in my life when I viewed having friends as a social
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What is a real friend and what does this mean to you? How would you describe a true friend? If you spent enough time thinking about it, there’s likely a fairly long list. Frankly, if you asked me 15+ years ago, my list would be 10x as long, including things like shared interests, finishing each
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Adult friendships are complicated today, and never seem to last. Adulting is hard – fulfilling, no doubt, but it definitely brings a new perspective to life. Even making and maintaining adult friendships are difficult, and even harder to keep. They just rarely seem to last these days. It shouldn’t be much of a surprise that
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Dear estranged Friend, After many years, my mind is often stricken with, “Why?” For everything. Why did you come into my life knowing it would come to this? It was impossible then, and still difficult to grasp now, that many friendships are filled with lessons. Why did we become so close if we knew at
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