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This isn't my typical kind of post but more of a rant, venting and confession all-in-one. That's the energy I'm bringing today, because my heart has been heavy lately pertaining to why I stopped chasing friends.

Friendship fallout as an adult: Why I stopped chasing friends

This isn’t my typical kind of post but more of a rant, venting and confession all-in-one. That’s the energy I’m bringing today, because my heart has been heavy lately pertaining to why I stopped chasing friends. I’m sure many can resonate with this one. To be clear, there’s a difference between showing up, making an […]

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Assuming you are reading this - obviously - in your 20s, but more importantly, this being the time in your life when your friends are...well...life. Although this is more of an unconventional approach, I believe this is the time to make the most of your 20s *with your bestie(s)*.

How to make the most of your 20s with your friends

Assuming you are reading this – obviously – in your 20s, but more importantly, this [hopefully] being the time in your life when your friends are…well…life. Although this is more of an unconventional approach, I believe this is the time to make the most of your 20s *with your bestie(s)*. You and your crew are

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Ask yourself the hard, pivotal post-breakup question when it comes to relationships: what does closure mean to me? And really, be frank, don't hold back. Because that's what this post is about - figuring out what it can actually mean to want closure, and maybe even closure you didn't get.

Do you want closure or redemption in a relationship?

Ask yourself the hard, pivotal post-breakup question when it comes to relationships: what does closure mean to me? And really, be frank, don’t hold back. Because that’s what this post is about – figuring out what it can actually mean to want closure, and maybe even closure you didn’t get. The hard truth is, on

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We need to STOP romanticizing dating red flags. Because..."What you allow is what will continue,", "The treatment we tolerate from others is a reflection of how we treat ourselves,", and "Your worth is not determined by self-neglect." Just a little dating food for thought there, since I am speaking from the very position where I, too, romanticized some of these common dating red flags.

We need to stop romanticizing these dating red flags

We need to STOP romanticizing dating red flags. Because…”What you allow is what will continue,”, “The treatment we tolerate from others is a reflection of how we treat ourselves,”, and “Your worth is not determined by self-neglect.” Just a little dating food for thought there, since I am speaking from the very position where I,

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Hello to the innocent, closet-weird, shy girl of the early 2000s. You're 30 now, and I have yet to actually take the time to let you in on my secrets on Love and teenage boys as you enter that magical phase of your life. You'll probably roll your eyes at me (your future husband LOVES when you do that) but seriously, though, some of this stuff may come as no surprise to you since you were a late bloomer to "girlhood" - having a tomboyish personality and all. But I think that gives you the upper hand because you have always seemed to easily relate to boys from a young age. And that's nothing to feel ashamed of.

A letter to my teenage self about Love and boys – An open letter to my younger self about heartbreak

Hello to the innocent, closet-weird, shy girl of the early 2000s. You’re 30 now, and I have yet to actually take the time to let you in on my secrets on Love and teenage boys as you enter that magical phase of your life. You’ll probably roll your eyes at me (your future husband LOVES

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Stop expecting YOU from others - sincerely, a recovering people pleaser. There's a slightly nasty, yet logical part of me that thinks we do this because we are constantly told we are imperfectly perfect, and to focus on our positive qualities. So we start looking for that same sense of perfection in others - meaning, we're looking for that good in others to measure up to our own perceived goodness.

Stop expecting YOU from others – sincerely, a recovering people pleaser

Stop expecting YOU from others – sincerely, a recovering people pleaser. There’s a slightly nasty, yet logical part of me that thinks we do this because we are constantly told we are imperfectly perfect, and to focus on our positive qualities. So we start looking for that same sense of perfection in others – meaning,

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How To Stop Being Defensive [When You Feel Under Attack] | It's instinctive - biological - that when you feel attacked you will either shut down, run away and hide or retaliate to protect yourself. But from a social standpoint - particularly with our close relationships with others - this defense mechanism does more harm (for you and others) than good. Begin the process of healing yourself, learn how to manage your emotions and conserve the energy for what truly matters in life | #selfimprovementtips #defensive #selfhealing | theMRSingLink

How to stop being defensive when you feel under attack

Defensiveness – it’s the gut reaction to defend yourself when you feel someone has said or done something unfairly or negatively to you. When you feel attacked you will either shut down, run away, hide or retaliate to protect yourself. You know all too well what that feels like. The blood is rushing to your face, you start

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7 Things That Are Holding You Back In Life [Let Them Go!] | Let go of the negativity that is holding you back in life | Self improvement tips to get rid of toxic negativity | Feel, heal and forgive yourself | Free yourself of the things that keep you from living a life of happiness | #selfimprovement #negativity #freeyourself | theMRSingLink

7 Things That Are Holding You Back In Life [Let Them Go!]

Every single one of us in life goes through times of imposition. If you didn’t go through struggles you would never learn how to overcome them. Besides, it’s these rough periods in life that help you understand their significance and what you care about the most. But I think it’s fair to admit that we

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