Ah, Valentine’s Day. That dreaded, yet beautiful holiday. I remember some years thinking, ‘WHY DOES THIS DAY EVEN EXIST?’ And now I’m married, and sometimes I still think that. It’s about love notes, chocolates, secret admirers and teddy bears. WRONG. This holiday has become a day of not about love and kindness, but apologetic gestures and a desperate desire for any love. Right, am I not? You’re single (or were, at one point), for example, and that holiday comes around – have you not thought for a split second you would actually like getting those flowers from the weird, obsessive, you’d-never-even-think-twice-to-date-him co-worker or friend? Thought so. Don’t be ashamed – we were all there at some point. And those that say they hate Valentine’s Day – well – they want the attention even more than you do, and probably could use it. So, chin up.
And if you’re in a relationship or married, then you’ve either crossed over to the path of never celebrating Valentine’s Day – because, what’s the point when I got my Valentine, and that day is now like any ole’ day – or you now have engaged in the matter of making Valentine’s Day the biggest excuse to smother each other. Either way is cool, I’m not here to judge. Or maybe you’re the very, very small percentage who treat the day casually, like a simple date night.
But this day is no longer about cards, chocolates, flowers or teddy bears. This is the one day people spend thousands, and I mean THOUSANDS, of dollars each year. Think about it – people have to buy gifts not only for their spouse or partner, but all the ones they’re cheating on them with, too!
Alright, but really, all jokes aside here. In all seriousness, the usual stuff just doesn’t cut it today. Now we have a margin of those that take trips, buy diamonds, $100+ flowers, buy cars, or drop paychecks just for that one holiday. It’s insane. And I’m a DIY advocate, to the fullest extent, and I’ve seen the many DIY ways of showing love, where is more of that in the world? What ever happened to the satisfaction of the sweet written card and chocolates, a dinner out or simply spending quality time together?
So let’s talk about the male species for a second here. Guys are the opposite of women most of the time. What a woman wants for Valentine’s Day may not be what he pictures in his eyes – if you catch my drift. And honestly, it has nothing to do with hearts, I Love You’s and chocolate. But us women, we still tend to go our own way of things – the unnecessary, ‘what-I-would-want-and-he-should-just-appreciate-I-did-anything’ sort of way.
I am going to give you an honest list – a list of the easiest ways to steal his heart on Valentine’s Day. You can take it all with a grain of salt, but I did a survey of over 100 men who gave honest answers as to what they would want in terms of this holiday of love. And from them all, I think you’ll shockingly be surprised.
Easiest Ways To Steal His Heart On Valentine’s Day
1 | A good ole’ fashion home cooked meal
No reservations, no two hour long wait for that new restaurant. Forget all of that. Guys want a good, home cooked meal on Valentine’s Day. Whether it solely be made by you, you’re cooking together, or having his favorite take out; a candlelit dinner at home is high on his holiday menu. Whatever his favorite meal is – that’s what he wants most on Valentine’s Day. Because, as we know, good food is the way to a man’s heart.
If you must, for whatever reason, take him out – take him to his favorite place; whether it’s that sports bar for beer and wings to watch a game. You really don’t need to plan a fancy, call ahead in two weeks, dinner.
2 | An activity you know he will enjoy
Notice I said he. Even if you absolutely can’t stand it. And really, he will notice the effort taken. This doesn’t mean movie tickets (since he loves movies) to a romance you want to see – don’t pull that, because you know how you would feel if roles swapped. If he has a favorite hobby, or hobbies, treat him to a date night activity.
One year I surprised my husband with indoor go kart racing, since we had never been and always talked about it.. There are so many activities to choose from: laser tag, indoor sky diving, bowling, mini golf, horseback riding, the beach, a sport’s game, concert or comedy show, the gun range, theme parks, the zoo, a booze cruise, or fishing. Take the time ahead to plan an activity he enjoys that you can enjoy together.
3 | Date night at home
I was surprised at how many survey answers said they would prefer a date night planned at home. This a clear sign as to how simple guys are when it comes to their needs being met. Including the home cooked meal, many said they would be happy with a pack of their favorite beer or drink, spending the night together playing video games, watching a movie, listening to music, spending quality time together, playing a board game, having a ‘build your own ice cream sundae’ party, having a bonfire and watching the stars in the backyard.
So this year, plan a night by picking up a 6-pack of his favorite beer and wine for you, ingredients to his favorite meal, and a simple activity at home.
4 | Keep the gifts minimal
Valentine’s Day for guys actually doesn’t involve ‘gifts’. Many never mentioned any physical item they wanted at all. There isn’t any expectation, and many would rather have your time than your money spent on them. But if the gesture is given, then a thoughtful card, a decadent cake or dessert (again, food), or something handmade by you is acceptable. Forget the balloons and giant teddy bear; those things are far from their expectations for Valentine’s Day.
5 | And, of course, you can’t forget getting freaky in the sheets
If there is anything you should know about a man, undoubtedly, is that sexy-time is always, always number one on that list. Guys want sex. Yes, I said it, because very few guys will actually and honestly say it aloud (moreover, in hopes they truly have respect for you). You could plan absolutely nothing – as long as you meet that desire, you have just won him over with hardly trying. If you’re in a relationship, engaged, or married – just know this option is almost always 100% on the table, not just Valentine’s Day, of course. But let’s just say the holiday basically gives the male species an excuse to try and justify it. So, make it special – get something new and sexy to wear – and give your man a private show.
But in general, you are encouraged to respecting your own boundaries; this is something you shouldn’t feel complied to doing by any means.
So there you have it. Not a very long list, might I add. And like I have said – men are simple creatures. It’s hard to believe just how simple, but honestly who cares? That makes it all easier when it comes to planning.
But when you take on these considerations, please remember: communicate the plans before actually planning – so you don’t overlap plans for each other.