It should be important to note that I am addressing both guys and gals here, and that both ought to be comfortable sending follow-ups, especially if you like them. Besides, we really ought to end the fear and negative stigma when it comes to texting following a first date.
Look, it’s just not *cool* to play off those mysterious vibes anymore – if anything that makes you totally aloof.
The point I’m making here is we should be sending that text, especially after a first date, and it should be forthright. Meaning, we shouldn’t be conflating it with things we don’t mean, to be received well or to make us look good.
TBH, though, someone not that interested is going to put in a ton of effort, anyway. They definitely won’t be sending you the example texts I’m about to dish.
But let’s say the date went well you really dig this person, right, and your goal is to keep things moving. What are some things you can say after a first date that reflect just that, and in a cutsy way to show you’re interested?
11 Cutsy follow-up texts to send after a first date
“I had a great time! I’m still laughing about [..].”
Was the first date filled with innocent silliness or a ton of laughs? Maybe something unexpectedly hilarious happened that left you both gasping for air to the point your stomachs hurt – something impossible to forget, at least for the next few days.
This is the perfect way to share that you enjoyed the date and connected with something between the two of you while keeping it light and fun. It also instigates a date refresh by mentioning something that stood out to you, and wanting to share that with them.
“[Activity] was super fun! My favorite part was [..].”
How often are we inclined to point out memorable moments from a first date, especially someone we’re interested with? If we’re not interested, we simply wouldn’t do this – it’s a waste of time.
To pinpoint your favorite part of the date, or activity, in a follow-up text shows just how much you’re reflecting on your time together in real-time.
“You’re really easy to talk to and be around, which is a breath of fresh air.”
Smooth, easy, and fresh – this is one sure compliment people probably want to hear, especially following the potential anxieties and awkwardness of first date jitters. Tell me I’m wrong.
Letting them know they are a breath of fresh air indirectly differentiates them from others and other dates in the past. It also expresses a level of comfort and ease you felt being in their company for the first time.
“Thank you, again, for tonight – I really appreciate [..].”
I don’t care who initiates, pays, drives and plans – it’s always nice to be thanked. To be thankful is also the flex we should aim for instead of flexing what we deserve without gratitude.
It’s totally cute to thank them, again, for the date together. And if you’re really trying to spell out how you feel, tell them something you appreciated. For example, “I really appreciated when you corrected the waiter with kindness about my complicated drink order without making things super awkward.“
“Oops! Somehow your wallet landed in my [purse, back pocket] – guess we’ll be seeing each other and doing this again soon!”
This one’s supposed to be joke, just so we’re clear. This might not be one to use if you’re both the more *serious* type, but if the vibes were clearly on the light-hearted, humorous and playful side…this is one super easy way to flirt your way into a second date.
It’s even the perfect liner for those who absolutely suck at flirting. Just make sure you state that you’re totally kidding, and that you do not actually have their wallet.
“I’m already thinking about our next date – how does [Day/Time] sound?”
Direct and straight to the point, but still totally cutsy! There’s no way this doesn’t tickle the brains of individuals who are mutually interested. In fact, many might keel over and believe to be deceased – am I right or am I right?
This is, seriously, one of THE best follow-up texts you can send – hands down.
“This might be a little forward, but I can’t get your… [blue eyes, dimples, curly hair] …out of my mind.”
Another flirtatious one for the books, if you’re looking for one. Why do I love it? Because it shows you were paying attention or notice something unique about them, and it goes beyond the typical “You looked
“That kiss, though. I might need a visual reminder of just how good it was so I don’t forget it.”
Sly, slick and smooth, I’ll say. Gutsy? Sure, but I think confidence takes the lead here if that first kiss felt mutual. Not only does this indicate how you felt about the kiss, but it shows just how much you want to experience it again.
*This one is also perfect for those who say they suck at flirting, LOL.
“I wanted you to know I was impressed by [..].”
The thing is, every single person reflects on the date and the person they were with. There’s rarely a time when someone leaves a date without an iota of thought or retrospection, unless they are truly a D-bag. Besides, it’s not like the second you depart from one another’s presence that you’ve left their mind and them yours.
If you were on a date with someone you actually liked and enjoyed being around them, immediately following is the time to share in that reflection. One positive way to make it known they (and the date) are still on your mind is telling them something that really impressed you about them.
“I was blown away by how well you played at Top Golf tonight.”
“Is it crazy that I can’t stop smiling right now?”
I mean, WHO wouldn’t bat their eyelashes over THAT? Plus, look at the way it’s worded. It’s also a question, which means you’re giving the other person the opportunity to either agree with you (and reciprocate the same), slap you silly, or simply “lol” by avoiding the question altogether.
Either way, don’t let this one fool you – it’s not like you’re saying, “I Love You”. Seriously, it’s not that deep, but it does dig a little into how you’re feeling at the moment!
Sheesh, let’s remember the things we enjoy hearing and should say aloud when we’re truly interested in someone.
“It means a lot that you [..].”
This one is ideal for those deeper moments you might encounter – for instance, that you both went to school abroad and had a similar culture-shock experience in that time. He may have related with you in many ways that others wouldn’t or couldn’t, and it was validating to share that commonality.
Or, on a more low-key yet significant note, it meant a lot to you that he embodies certain beliefs, thoughts, and values you do. For example, “It means a lot that you look up to your parent’s commitment and value marriage the same way I do.“
Whatever the case, I say preach it!