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Now that that's out of the way, a forewarning: this post is prettttty in-depth - almost 7,000 words! It's a long one, but definitely worth reading in full to gain a different perspective and better understanding of the anxious attached partner. So please take the time to read the whole thing rather than go cherry picking!

25+ Things to say to an anxious attached partner (that actually help)

If your partner has an anxious attachment style, what you say matters Those who actually read this post are most likely to have an anxious attachment style (not to be confused with the fearful avoidant attachment). Because, alas, I find that it’s the anxiously attached partners who are also more likely to seek out answers […]

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I notice this quite a bit - men who genuinely believe their relationship is *improving* when actually it's the opposite. She's moved on, like done-zo - checked out of the relationship. I don't totally understand men's logic on this one (granted, women share this, too, just *different*) but I imagine it's simply because the arguing, bickering and fighting has either dwindled or come to a screeching halt...and not by the authentic efforts for improvement.

Dear men, the relationship isn’t improving – she’s moved on

I notice this quite a bit – men who genuinely believe their relationship is *improving* when actually it’s the opposite. She’s moved on, like done-zo – checked out of the relationship. I don’t totally understand men’s logic on this one (granted, women share this, too, just *different*) but I imagine it’s simply because the arguing,

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I'm not afraid to admit it - as a married woman, relationship-care and self-care are congruently interconnected. Relationship-care is also self-care, yet why is this statement so combative? That's a personal question to ask and unpack yourself. Putting effort into and towards my marriage ultimately makes me *feel good*, as it should! The same way working out is part of your self-care routine - it's work and it's effort, so you may not always feel inclined to doing it, but in the end it's worth it.

Relationship-care is also self-care [9 examples]

I’m not afraid to admit it – as a married woman, relationship-care and self-care are congruently interconnected. Relationship-care is also self-care, yet why is this statement so combative? That’s a personal question to ask and unpack yourself. Putting effort into and towards my marriage ultimately makes me *feel good*, as it should! The same way

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Every relationship should be built on the foundation of trust, duh, as are couples each responsible for honoring and upholding that trust. Where you define the basis of trust in your relationship is entirely between you and your partner. So if you and your partner are totally cool keeping your mula separate (as "private" information) from one another, and this not be a detriment to relationship trust, then cool beans. Yet being in a relationship, we have to be willing to find that middle, common ground between transparency and trust. Because, at the end of the day, a lack of transparency is a lack of trust.

7 Subtle ways relationship trust can be broken or lost

We all know by now that trust is the easiest to lose, and the hardest to regain. And in relationships trust is easily and most obviously broken by things like deceit (lying, dishonesty, secrecy) and infidelity (cheating, disloyalty), but what about the not-so -obvious? The subtle ways trust can be lost or broken in relationships

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Did you know you form an attachment style early in childhood? In fact, there are multiple forms of attachment (healthy and unhealthy), but that's not where I'm going with this post. And while attachment and Love are fairly interconnected (especially in relationships today), they are actually distinctly different and often confused.

Love vs. Attachment in relationships – what you need to know

Did you know you form an attachment style early in childhood? In fact, there are multiple forms of attachment (healthy and unhealthy), but that’s not where I’m going with this post. And while attachment and Love are fairly interconnected (especially in relationships today), they are actually distinctly different and often confused. THAT’S what I want

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Besides the usual 'How was your day?' in the mix of your conversational routine with your spouse, are you making a point to connect with your spouse every day? Hopefully, 'How was your day?', is the bare minimum. It's not that the mundane questions aren't thoughtful and connection-focused, but you know who else likely asks your spouse those similar questions? Co-workers, their boss, friends...maybe even their mom.

How to connect with your spouse every day – Conversation starters to a deeper connection in marriage

Besides the usual ‘How was your day?’ in the mix of your conversational routine with your spouse, are you making a point to connect with your spouse every day? Hopefully, ‘How was your day?’, is the bare minimum. It’s not that the mundane questions aren’t thoughtful and connection-focused, but you know who else likely asks

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Does it even make sense?? Being more fearful of finding a good guy that doesn't come with all the drama-filled, emotionally exhausting, roller coaster ride of your previous toxic relationships?

When Finding A Good Guy Is Scarier Than Your Toxic Relationships

Does it even make sense?? Being more fearful of finding a good guy that doesn’t come with all the drama-filled, emotionally exhausting, roller coaster ride of your previous toxic relationships? Listen, that very fear is valid. But breathe easy when I say this transition through healing will pass. It won’t be easy at first, it’ll

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