Hi there! That's me - Carissa!

Pronounced the – [missing] – Link. Get it?

Since early 2017 theMRSingLink (TML) has been a growing resource for [mostly] women on improving their relationships and breaking unhealthy habits and patterns in their life (including relationships, friendships and beyond) from the unconventional yet more traditional perspective of a sarcastic and socially awkward individual like myself.

Heyyyy…! *awkward wave*

My goal for TML is pretty simple: to be real and honest with you (none of that sugar-coated, diluted nonsense). I aim to be the friend I never had. Who would have told me to open my eyes, remove the veil, or said I deserved better. Who would have been a shoulder and support pillar when I needed it most. Who would have compassion for my feelings but also told me like it is instead of tickling my sensitive ears with half-truths. But I also want you to know that I’m in the trenches with you, by sharing my own personal experiences along the way, because in this crazy thing called Life…we all just want to be heard. So I’m here to tell you that I do hear you, I am listening. Though I may not understand or agree with everything, I strive to be exactly what you need – a voice of reason, a shoulder for support, or an ear for listening. 

A little deeper about me: Alas, I became a certified relationship coach. Why? I’m just insanely passionate about personal growth and accountability. I grew up believing (taught) that I was responsible for other’s (other’s feelings) at the expense of my own (my self). Now as an adult, much of my childhood and young adult years are like a blur. I don’t know who that person was, I just knew it wasn’t me, but me in others. And at 30-something, I’m only now re-discovering myself. I still don’t have it all together, figured out or know where I’m going. In fact, it’s been incredibly difficult for me to see beyond tomorrow. If you can relate at all, you are not alone in this.

I grew up with a pretty icky outlook on myself, relationships, and people in general, honestly. Social anxiety from a very young age doesn’t help my case, either. And I just wasn’t having it anymore. I guess you could say this blog became my “calling”, but it’s more than that. Many of my strengths have surfaced over the recent years, after opening my eyes to an intense need for healing and “awakening” – lots of “seeing” (like truly seeing), accepting, forgiving, self-forgiving, self-responsibility, accountability, letting go, as well as finding my way back to God and repairing my relationship with Jesus (which has become a major role and key player). And if there’s one thing I’ve learned so far is that – in life, and Love – it isn’t about choosing what’s easy or comfortable but what’s right.I