I’m not afraid to admit it – as a married woman, relationship-care and self-care are congruently interconnected. Relationship-care is also self-care, yet why is this statement so combative? That’s a personal question to ask and unpack yourself. Putting effort into and towards my marriage ultimately makes me *feel good*, as it should! The same way […]
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Right now this so-called lockdown, staycation, work-from-home, solitary confinement or period of unwilful solitude – whatever you want to call it – is about to test everyone’s relationships. Whether you’re newly dating, in a relationship, living together or apart, engaged or married, this indirectly enforced stay-at-home confinement is going to be the ultimate test if
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Defensiveness – it’s the gut reaction to defend yourself when you feel someone has said or done something unfairly or negatively to you. This is instinctive – it’s biological – that when you feel attacked you will either shut down, run away and hide or retaliate to protect yourself. You know all too well what that feels like. The blood
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Crazy thought, right? It took me a while to grasp this understanding, but if you think about it it actually does make the most sense. Everywhere you read gives you bullet points on how to improve communication with your partner (I, too, am guilty – you can read that post here), but the way we
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Am I the only one who loves rekindling the flame every now and then? No – I didn’t think so. Plus, I also enjoy relishing in the memories of when my husband and I were dating. When he would come pick me up at my parent’s house, have a date (or adventure, as he calls
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When we think about strengthening our marriage, we often think of things we can do with our spouse. We suggest going on more dates or communicating better but we never think of ourselves. We don’t think about finding more “me time” or hanging out with our friends because, that would be selfish, right? Well, I’m
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That’s right – I chose a partner based heavily on similar or shared core values. The funny thing is none of this really mattered to me – in a partner – at 19, 20, 21 years old. But something changed for me – at my core – around the age of 25, following a call
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We’ve all been there – allowing one bad to outweigh every single good in our marriage. I know I’ve been there – through times when I believed my husband’s priority of the marriage was slipping, when I needed him to be more supportive and accepting of my insecurities and us maintaining the drive we had
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Distance isn’t necessarily a bad thing. But when does it become an issue? I felt this distance when my husband started back up working night shift as a police officer for the first time since moving in together, and getting married. So now, at 6pm he leaves for work, comes home at 7am. As I’m getting up
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